I’m not one for New Year’s resolutions, I like to think of this time of the year as a way to either set goals or reflect on the past year. This time I’m in the mood for refection and started a list of lessons that were important in this past year. So, come along as I share my list over the next week. I have a total of seven, more than a short list but not quite a top ten list. But this is what I want to remember most about 2011.
#7: I Am Resilient
I’ve always suspected that I have an ability to make it through difficult circumstances, but this last year pushed me a bit further. I found myself unemployed, a product of lay-offs in a tough economy and then immediately dealt with a break-in at the house. For many people, these two events would mark a difficult and tumultuous year, but for me they were mere blips on the radar.
From the layoff, I learned that losing my job was not the same as losing myself. Keeping my sense of personal identity was important to keeping balance in the rest of my life. It also served to keep me trusting in my ability to find new and wonderful career opportunities. Losing my job allowed me time to reflect, to play and to spend time on events and with friends. Job loss for me, was a gift I did not ask for but would never return.
From the break-in, I learned that my sense of security is not rooted in possessions or in a place. Yes, a man broke in, by literally breaking through a back door. By all accounts this event should have left me shaken and worried about my safety. However, it just reminded me that bad events happen in our lives. Sometimes we have to deal with those consequences and sometimes we have to accept that we were merely in the wrong place at the wrong time. The robbery taught me how easy it would be to become distracted by terrible actions surrounding me instead of stepping around them and focusing on my happiness and security.
So although I will mention these events in my life, I know they will not define me.